“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to
use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ~ Oscar Wilde
Do you consider yourself to be an emotional person?
Would you say that your emotions can change automatically based on something that occurs during your day?
If your answer was yes, you are a slave to your emotions.
When I was growing up, my sister would say I would wear
my heart on my sleeve, and that my emotions would change with the direction of the wind.
Being an emotional person and leading with the heart can both be great qualities.
Leaning into our feelings allows us to be more self-aware and helps connect us to others.
But if we allow our emotions to dictate how we live our lives, it can lead to anxiety,
depression, and even have a negative impact on our health and relationships.
As an empathetic person who feels things deeply, I have learned this lesson the hard way.
It took me many years to grasp the concept that all emotions stem from thought. As a
young woman with low self-esteem, I didn’t realize that my negative self-talk and sensitivity
to others’ opinions were having a profound effect on my emotions and moods.
I had no idea how my emotions played a role in self-esteem and confidence and what impact that played in business.
I knew that I had to get my negative chatter under control so ultimately I could make an impact in my business.
Here is what helped me get my emotions under control:
Take Full Responsibility
Once you take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life, you become a survivor and not a victim.
It is very true that others people emotions can impact how we feel, BUT you always have a choice.
So when you reactive negatively it is your choice. Own it.
Emotions are derived from our thoughts and then attached to a feeling. It is important for you to be aware of your thoughts, as your perception creates your own realities.
Be aware of your triggers
If you know you struggle with certain emotions, you need to know what are the circumstances that trigger them.
I know when I am triggered I can actually feel the heat rising in my body. I immediately change my thoughts,
because it is my choice on how I react. I am not saying that sometimes my emotions do not
get the best of me, but I do make a concentrated effort to do what serves my highest good.
Ultimately it’s important to remember that you are not your emotions—you have the ability to
decide if they lead you or if you lead them. As you build awareness and learn to recognize
your triggers, you will become increasingly savvy about when your emotions are
serving you well and when you may need to take charge of them.
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